Peb yuav ua li cas thiaj li pab tau me nyuam tsis txhob dag?

2024 Tus sau: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-16 16:06

Qhov tseeb, peb txhua tus paub tias kev dag tsis zoo. Tab sis tib lub sij hawm, lub sij hawm (zoo, peb dag) ntau ntau tshaj li qhov peb xav. Qee lub sij hawm peb ua nws tsis xav li cas thiab ib txwm ua, zoo li peb tab tom ua qhov xwm txheej uas lub luag haujlwm tau npaj ua ntej.

Thaum tus menyuam kawm ntawv lig rau chav kawm, tus kws qhia yuav tsum teb rau nws. Lawv hnov txawv txawv. Qee tus xa cov neeg tuaj tom qab mus, qee qhov, ntuav ntuav, cia lawv nkag mus thiab zaum ntawm lub rooj nrog lub taub hau, thaum feem coob mus nug (nug nug?): Lawv hais qhov twg, koj hnav, teb., tus kuv hlub. Thiab tsis tshua muaj leej twg yuav xav nug lawv tus kheej: Kuv puas yuav paub qhov tseeb yog tias kuv nug?

Muaj ib hnub kuv cov menyuam kawm ntawv tau muab ib qho kev xav tsis zoo rau kuv.

Ib zaug, tom qab ib tug ntev thaw, Frost tawg tawm - thiab peb lub nroog nyob rau hauv ib tug instant hloov mus rau hauv ib tug loj skating rink. Lawm, thawj zaj lus qhia tsis tuaj yeem pib ib txwm - cov latecomers dragged rau hauv txoj hlua tsis kawg. "Yog li,"Kuv pib hais, "lub ntsiab lus ntawm peb … " - tom qab ntawd "knock-knock-knock" tau hnov, ces lub qhov rooj qhib thiab lwm tus neeg tuaj lig tshwm sim hauv qhov rooj. Ib qho kev sib tham ib txwm ua raws li:

- Ua cas koj lig?

- Yog, koj paub, lub npav tawg.

- Kuv nkag siab … Los rau hauv, zaum. Yog li, lub ntsiab lus ntawm peb …

“Knock-Knock…”

Thawj, thib ob, thib peb, plaub … Tag nrho raws li ib tug tham txog cov tsheb npav tawg thiab txoj kev phem. Cov chav kawm tau zoo siab heev ntawm txhua qhov tshwm sim tshiab, Kuv ntshai me ntsis thiab ntsia kuv lub moos. Tab sis tam sim no tag nrho cov latecomers rub tawm, thiab tsuas yog peb coj mus rau "Txiv thiab Tub" …

… muaj lub khob dua. Cov tub ntxhais kawm ntawv kawg, ntxim nyiam thiab tsis saib xyuas kiag li tshwm sim, uas yog kuv tus neeg nyob ze.

- Ua tau? - Nws nug, raws li befits ib tug latecomer.

Kuv (raws li ib tug xib fwb yuav tsum) ua txuj rau frown:

- Ua cas koj lig?

Nws qhib nws lub qhov ncauj: Yog-ah …

- Lub npav tawg …

"Yog," nws hais tias, "lub tsheb npav.

- Los rau hauv … - raws li tsab ntawv, kuv nodded kuv taub hau. Nws luag ntxhi. Thiab ces nws dawned rau kuv tias nws tsuas yog tsis xav tau lub tsheb npav: nws ib txwm taug kev mus rau tsev kawm ntawv!

"Kuv dag,"Kuv xav, thiab tam sim ntawd kuv nyiam heev: lwm tus neeg dag lossis tsis? Tom qab ntxuav tag nrho cov lus qhia nrog qhov kev xav no, thaum kawg kuv tsis tuaj yeem tiv taus thiab nug cov hais mav:

- Qhia rau kuv hais ncaj ncees, leej twg tau lig hnub no vim lub npav tawg, thiab tsis yog vim lwm yam?

Luag dov ib ncig ntawm chav kawm, ces ob txhais tes nce. Txawm li cas los xij, ib qho, muaj kev ntxhov siab, poob qis.

- Puas muaj cov neeg tuaj lig tsis muaj laj thawj zoo? - Kuv tsis tau calm down.

- Thiab qhov no yog saib zoo li cas hnyav thiab hwm koj xav, - Kuv tau txais hauv cov lus teb.

Thaum ntawd kuv xav tias: Kuv xav tias, leej twg yog tus pib ntawm qhov kev dag no, cov tub ntxhais kawm lossis lawv tus kws qhia?

Txij thaum ntawd los, lo lus nug "vim li cas thiaj lig", yog li tsis txhob txhawb cov lus dag, kuv tau tshem tawm tag nrho. Zoo dua los ntseeg: muaj qhov laj thawj rau txhua qhov kev ua. Thiab tsis txhob thawb rau kev dag ntxias ua ntej.

(Los ntawm txoj kev, tsis muaj kev ncua ntxiv tom qab ntawd. Zoo, nrog rau cov neeg uas qhia txog tus kheej zam rau kev lig, muaj lwm yam kev sib tham. Thiab yeej tsis nyob hauv chav kawm thiab tsis nyob rau pem hauv ntej ntawm tag nrho cov chav kawm.)

Cov menyuam yaus yog qhov ncaj ncees. Peb provoke peb tus kheej mus dag cov me nyuam. Ua ntej, peb provoke, thiab tom qab ntawd, yog tias dhau mus lawm lawv tswj kom tsis txhob muaj teeb meem ua tsaug rau lawv cov "hais dab neeg", lawv tau siv los dag.

Peb ua li cas?

Txoj kev zoo tshaj plaws yog muab tus menyuam tso rau hauv qhov xwm txheej uas nws yuav tsum tau mus, tsim - sau cov dab neeg rau cov niam txiv.

Kuv tus ntxhais rov qab los ntawm kev taug kev: nws lub hauv caug yog qias neeg, nws lub ntsej muag yog grimy, pluaj ntawm nws hnav tsoos tsho.

- Koj puas ua si cov ruam "cossack tub sab" dua? Koj yuav tsis tawm mus sab nraud ib leeg ntxiv lawm! - lawv hais rau nws tom tsev.

Koj puas xav tias tus ntxhais yuav qhia qhov tseeb rau nws niam nws txiv lossis nws puas yuav nyiam sau "zaj dab neeg hais txog yuav ua li cas nws tsis txhob liam"?

- Koj tuaj yeem, kuv yuav tsis mus kawm ntawv, kuv lub taub hau mob … kuv caj pas … - yws tus tub.

Niam yuav hnov nws hauv pliaj (txhua yam zoo li zoo!) Thiab xa tus menyuam mus kawm ntawv. Nws zoo heev, nws muaj peev xwm nthuav tawm cov lus dag. Tab sis, hmoov tsis, nws tsis tau xyuam xim rau qhov tseeb tias nws tsis tau kawm qhov tseeb. Tom qab tag nrho, tsis tsuas yog kev tub nkeeg ua rau cov menyuam yaus mob sai, haus dej iab thiab txawm pw hauv txaj. Tus me nyuam nyob twj ywm, tsis qhia qhov tseeb: yog vim li cas nws tsis xav mus kawm ntawv. Tej zaum nws yuav muaj teeb meem loj, xws li tus tsis tuaj yeem tiv tau? Ua cas nws ho tsis tham txog lawv? Tsis cia siab rau koj txoj kev pab ntxiv lawm? txaj muag? Tsis ntseeg? Ntshai? Nws puas yuav nrhiav kev pab rau lwm qhov? Nws puas yuav nrhiav tau? Thiab yog tias nws ua li cas?

Raws li koj tau pom, cov lus dag me nyuam tsis txaus ntshai tsis yog vim lawv dag koj xwb. Los ntawm kev dag ntxias (lossis nyob twj ywm), tus menyuam tsuas txav deb ntawm koj. Thiab nws tsuas yog hais tias tus me nyuam tsis ntseeg koj txoj kev hlub uas tsis muaj kev cia siab.

Tus menyuam ncaj ncees rau nws niam nws txiv tsuas yog thaum:

• tso siab rau lawv;
• tsis ntshai ntawm lawv txoj kev npau taws lossis kev rau txim;
• Kuv paub tseeb tias txawm muaj dab tsi tshwm sim los, nws yuav tsis poob ntsej muag li ib tug neeg;
• lawv yuav tsis tham txog nws, tab sis ib qho kev coj ua uas yuav tsum tau kho;
• pab, txhawb nqa thaum nws xav tias phem;
• tus me nyuam paub tseeb: koj nyob ntawm nws sab;
• paub tias txawm tias raug rau txim, nws yog qhov tsim nyog thiab ncaj ncees (cov menyuam yaus feem ntau muaj lub siab ncaj ncees, thiab lawv feem ntau saib tsis taus cov uas tsis qhia nws - ob qho tib si despots thiab cov uas muag muag heev).

Cov me nyuam yaus (txog peb lossis plaub xyoos) tsis muaj peev xwm dag txhua. Lawv cov lus sab hauv tseem tsis tau tsim kho (lawv tsis paub yuav ua li cas hais "rau lawv tus kheej", lub hlwb), yog li lawv blurt tawm - lawv hais txhua yam uas los rau hauv lub siab. Nrog rau kev txhim kho ntawm kev hais lus sab hauv, "sensorship sab hauv" maj mam tshwm sim, uas yog, lub peev xwm los txiav txim seb qhov twg tsim nyog hais thiab qhov tsis yog.

Los ntawm lub sij hawm no, tus me nyuam twb tau tswj los tsim ib tug cwj pwm rau qhov teeb meem: dag-qhov tseeb. Yuav hais li cas, qhov twg los dag, dab tsi yuav tsum ntsiag to. Thiab nws kos nws cov lus xaus los ntawm kev soj ntsuam ntawm peb, cov niam txiv thiab lwm tus neeg nyob ze. Koj txoj kev sib raug zoo loj hlob li cas, koj tus kheej ua siab ncaj rau nws nrog nws, yuav nyob ntawm seb koj tus menyuam yuav nrog koj li cas tiag.

Tsis txhob qhia koj cov menyuam dag

Peb tus kheej feem ntau dag peb cov menyuam. Muaj tseeb tiag, peb feem ntau xav tias peb ua qhov no nrog lub hom phiaj zoo. Tab sis lawv puas zoo li ntawd tiag? Thiab qhov kev ntseeg poob puas tsim nyog nws?

“Mus ua si. Kuv yuav zaum ntawm no ib sab ntawm koj,”tus niam hais rau tus menyuam quaj, tso nws mus rau hauv kindergarten rau tag nrho hnub. Nws, ntawm chav kawm, sai sai no yuav calm down thiab nyob rau hauv yav tsaus ntuj yuav zoo siab maj mus ntsib nws niam, tab sis nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw, nyob rau hauv lub depths ntawm nws tus ntsuj plig, twb muaj ib tug cim: "Lawv tawm kuv."

"Tag kis peb yuav mus ua yeeb yam nrog koj," txiv yuav hais thiab … tsis nco qab. Thiab tus menyuam muaj lub cim txawv: "Cov lus cog tseg tsis ua tiav."

"Tsis yog, kuv tsis npau taws kiag li, cov no yog tag nrho koj cov khoom tsim," lawv hais rau tus menyuam. Tab sis lawv tsis nco qab ntxiv tias koj tsis npau taws rau nws, tab sis nrog tus thawj coj uas thauj lawv nrog kev ua haujlwm, koj npau taws heev, thiab yog li ntawd qhov kev xav tsis zoo no nyob qhov twg. Thiab tus me nyuam, tsis paub qhov tseeb, tab sis hnov tus neeg laus lub siab phem, coj txhua yam ntawm tus kheej thiab kev txhawj xeeb: Kuv ua dab tsi tsis ncaj ncees lawm? Thiab dua muaj ib tug cim: "Nws yog kuv txhaum, vim kuv niam yog phem."

"Tsis yog, kuv tsis tau muab koj cov hamster pov tseg, nws khiav tawm ntawm nws tus kheej." "Tsis yog, koj Vaska tsis hu koj" (thiab nws hu, tus koj ntxub). Cov cim, cim, cheb qhov tseeb. Cov lus dag me me, sib npaug thiab sib npaug, ua rau muaj kev tsis ntseeg loj. Nrog kev poob ntawm kev ntseeg … tsis muaj kev hlub tshua yog maj mam rhuav tshem. Tus me nyuam to taub: muaj tej yam uas lawv yuav hlub kuv. Kev hlub rau nws yuav txawv - conditioned.

Yog tias koj tau ntes koj cov khoom muaj nqis hauv kev dag, tsis txhob maj mus liam nws. Nug koj tus kheej: ua cas nws tsis qhia kuv qhov tseeb?

Thiab tseem - saib tus menyuam zoo li hauv daim iav. Thaum nws los txog, nws yuav teb.