TOP-8 kev teeb tsa rau kev kawm zoo

2024 Tus sau: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-16 16:06

Coob leej ntawm peb qhuas cov yeeb yaj kiab hais txog kev ua nom ua tswv, lawv cov nom tswv, kev ua siab zoo ntawm tus ntsuj plig thiab txiv neej. Lawm, tsis muaj cov neeg tsis muaj qhov tsis zoo, tab sis kev hwm thiab kev coj cwj pwm tau suav tias yog qhov tseem ceeb. Nyob rau hauv txhua rooj plaub, nws tag nrho yog nyob ntawm upbringing, lub hauv paus ntsiab lus uas peb yuav sim qhia rau koj txog. Yog hais tias lawv siv tsim nyog thiab nyob rau hauv moderation, koj muaj peev xwm loj hlob ib tug niaj hnub Bolkonsky.

1. Kev hwm tus kheej

Cov thawj coj me me tau qhia thaum yau tias "rau leej twg tau muab ntau, los ntawm qhov ntau yuav raug thov." Yog li ntawd, nws tau yug los ua ib tug neeg muaj koob meej - yog tias koj thov ua raws - ua siab tawv, ncaj ncees, muaj kev kawm thiab tsis yog kom ua tiav lub koob meej thiab hmoov zoo, tab sis vim tias koj yuav tsum ua li ntawd. Qhov no kuj txhais tau hais tias lub tswvyim ntawm "noble Honor", raws li lub tswv yim ntawm lub sij hawm, "kev hwm" tsis muab ib tug neeg muaj cai, tab sis ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, ua rau nws yooj yim dua lwm tus. Ua txhaum lo lus no txhais tau tias yuav rhuav koj lub koob npe nrov ib zaug thiab rau tag nrho. Muaj cov xwm txheej thaum ib tug neeg, lees paub nws qhov kev ua txhaum uas tsis tuaj yeem kho tau, muab nws cov lus hwm los tua nws tus kheej - thiab ua raws li nws cov lus cog tseg.

2. Ua siab loj

Cowardice tsis mus zoo nrog kev ua siab zoo, vim hais tias cov nom tswv tau saib xyuas tshwj xeeb rau kev ua siab loj thiab nws tau ntseeg tias nws tuaj yeem ua tau thiab yuav tsum tau kawm los ntawm kev siv zog thiab kev cob qhia. Tsis tas li ntawd, qhov no tsis yog tsuas yog cov tub ntxhais hluas uas tau ua haujlwm hauv tub rog thiab tub rog, ua haujlwm nyuaj thiab yog li tau txais kev hwm, tab sis kuj yog cov poj niam hluas.

Ntxhais fuabtais Ekaterina Meshcherskaya nco qab tias thaum nws yog ib tug ntxhais nws ntshai tsam cua daj cua dub, thiab nws tus tij laug tau rub nws mus rau ntawm lub qhov rais qhib qhov rais thiab teeb tsa nws los nag. Katya poob tsis nco qab los ntawm kev ntshai, thiab thaum nws rov nco qab, nws tus tij laug tau so nws lub ntsej muag ntub thiab hais tias: "Zoo, teb: Koj puas tseem yuav cowardly thiab ntshai tsam nag xob nag cua?" Ces nws hais ntxiv tias: “Thiab koj, yog koj xav kom kuv hlub koj thiab xav txog koj tus muam, ua siab loj. Nco ntsoov: tsis muaj kev txaj muag ntau dua li kev ua siab tawv." Tej zaum, qhov no tsis tsim nyog, tab sis nws tseem yuav tsum tau them se rau kev coj ua ntawm kev ua siab loj hauv kev yug me nyuam, yog tias, ntawm chav kawm, koj tab tom siv zog tsa tus ntxhais huab tais.

3. Lub cev muaj zog thiab agility

Ua siab tawv thiab nyob rau tib lub sijhawm tsis muaj zog yuav tsis ua haujlwm, yog li ntawd, kev cob qhia lub cev tsim nyog tau xav tau los ntawm cov nom tswv. Piv txwv li, nyob rau hauv Tsarskoye Selo Lyceum, qhov twg Pushkin kawm, lub sij hawm tau faib txhua txhua hnub rau "gymnastic ce": cov tub ntxhais kawm lyceum kawm caij nees, laj kab, ua luam dej thiab rowing. Nws yuav tsum tau borne nyob rau hauv lub siab hais tias lub lyceum yog ib lub tsev kawm ntawv tsim nyog uas tau kawm, raws li txoj kev npaj, statesmen. Hauv cov tsev kawm ntawv tub rog, cov kev cai rau cov tub ntxhais kawm tsis sib piv tau nruj dua.

Kev ua yeeb yam ntawm lub cev muaj zog yog qhov tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nqaij, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog vim lub cev muaj zog zoo yuav tsum muaj kev lom zem "fashionable": yos hav zoov thiab caij nees. Peb ntxiv tias txhua tus txiv neej yuav tsum tau npaj mus rau kev sib tw.

4. Kev tswj tus kheej

Ib tug tiag tiag aristocratic zoo uas ib txwm distinguished chav kawm ntawv no. Qhov twg ib tug txiv neej yooj yim overlaps txhua leej txhua tus "raws li nws niam", ib tug tiag tiag nobleman yuav tsis txawm coj ib tug plaub muag thiab yuav hnov qab tib yam kev txwv rau ob qho tib si zoo thiab phem xov xwm. Txij li thaum yau, nws raug cob qhia kom coj txoj hmoo ntawm kev ua siab loj, nrog kev hwm, tsis muaj kev poob siab. Kev tsis txaus siab, kua muag, kev xav tsis tsim nyog yog dhau ntawm kev coj ua, tus neeg muaj koob muaj npe tiag tiag tsis tuaj yeem them taus kev ua siab phem.

Koj tuaj yeem, ntawm chav kawm, liam cov aristocrats ntawm kev dag thiab kev siab phem, tab sis los ntawm thiab loj - lawv yog. Ua ntej, tsis muaj leej twg mob siab rau koj cov teeb meem thiab yuav tsum tsis txhob ua rau lwm tus. Thib ob, los ntawm kev khaws cov kev xav hauv qhov zais cia, koj tiv thaiv koj lub ntiaj teb sab hauv los ntawm kev xav.

5. Kev saib xyuas zoo li qub

"Koj tuaj yeem ua tus neeg muaj txiaj ntsig, Thiab xav txog kev zoo nkauj ntawm tes …". Koj paub tus sau cov kab no. Cov me nyuam Noble raug yuam kom saib zoo, tab sis tsis yog txhawm rau ua kom pom lawv txoj kev muaj nyiaj, tab sis tawm ntawm kev hwm rau lwm tus! "Tus neeg uas tau muab pov tseg tiag tiag rau tib neeg yuav tsis ua rau nws cov neeg zej zog ua txhaum los ntawm kev tsis saib xyuas ntau dhau ntawm kev hnav khaub ncaws, lossis los ntawm kev ua kom tsis zoo," Earl of Chesterfield tau sau.

Cov kev ntseeg ntawm kev zoo nkauj uas kav ntawm cov nom tswv xav tau cov ntsia hlau polished, cov plaub hau zoo nkauj, thiab cov khaub ncaws zoo nkauj tab sis saib yooj yim. Nws txaus kom nco qab Anna Karenina cov chav dej: “Anna hloov mus rau hauv ib lub tsho cambric yooj yim heev. Dolly tshuaj xyuas qhov hnav ris tsho yooj yim no kom zoo zoo. Nws paub tias nws txhais li cas thiab rau qhov nyiaj uas qhov yooj yim no tau txais.

6. Muaj peev xwm "nyiam"

Nyob rau hauv sib piv rau niaj hnub nyiam: "hlub kuv li kuv yog", cov nom tswv tau ua siab dawb siab zoo rau txhua leej txhua tus, thiab tsis tawm ntawm kev xav ntawm sycophancy, tab sis ethiquette. Lawv yuav tsum tau coj tus cwj pwm zoo li ua kom lawv lub tuam txhab muaj kev zoo siab rau cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig lawv. Thiab muaj ib qho laj thawj hauv qhov no, tom qab tag nrho, kev zoo siab hauv zej zog yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo los ua kom zoo siab rau koj tus kheej.

Lub peev xwm nyiam yog tag nrho kev tshawb fawb thiab pib nrog cov qauv yooj yim tshaj plaws: "Kho lwm tus li koj xav kom lawv kho koj."

Kom txog rau thaum ntau cov lus qhia nyuaj: "Sim kom paub txog txhua yam ntawm nws lub zog thiab qhov tsis muaj zog thiab them se rau thawj zaug, thiab ntau dua rau qhov thib ob."

"Txawm hais tias qhov khoob thiab frivolous no los yog lub tuam txhab yuav ua li cas, tsuav yog koj nyob rau hauv nws, tsis txhob qhia cov neeg nrog koj inattention rau lawv tias koj xav tias lawv khoob."

Puas yog nws tsis yog ib qho txuj ci tseem ceeb uas txhawb koj lub koob npe nrov thiab tiv thaiv koj cov hlab ntsha?

7. Kev coj ncaj ncees

Kev coj ncaj ncees txhais tau tias tsis yog nruj lossis txaj muag (lawv tsuas yog tawm tsam nrog nws, tus neeg coj ncaj yuav tsum tsis txhob zais nws tus cwj pwm), tab sis tus cwj pwm txwv rau nws tus neeg.

Nws tau ntseeg tias koj yuav tsum tsis txhob koom nrog kev sib tham nrog koj cov lus lossis cov lus qhia. "Nqa koj cov nyiaj pab kawm ntawv thaum koj hnav lub moos - hauv koj lub hnab ris sab hauv. Yog koj nug "lub sijhawm twg?" - teb, tab sis tsis txhob tshaj tawm lub sij hawm txhua teev thiab thaum tsis muaj leej twg nug koj, koj tsis yog ib tug neeg saib xyuas hmo ntuj" ("Letters to the Son"Earl of Chesterfield).

Los yog lwm qhov piv txwv zoo uas yuav tsum tau coj mus rau hauv tus account hauv peb lub sijhawm: "Hais ntau zaus, tab sis tsis txhob hais ntev ntev - txawm tias koj tsis nyiam qhov koj hais, yam tsawg kawg koj yuav tsis nkees koj cov neeg mloog."

8. Tsim nyog, hais lus zoo

Peb txhua tus paub tias Fabkis nyob rau hauv Russia yog cov lus ntawm kev sib txuas lus ntawm cov nom tswv, tab sis lawv paub Lavxias teb sab ib yam nkaus. Muaj ob txoj cai tsis hais txog kev hais lus. Ua ntej, aristocrat tiag tiag tuaj yeem hais qhov tsis zoo thiab thuam rau lwm tus aristocrat, tab sis tsuas yog tias lawv raug nthuav tawm hauv daim ntawv tsis zoo. Qhov no yuav tsum muaj kev txawj tshwj xeeb hauv kev paub lus, kev paub txog txhua qhov kev lees paub ntawm kev hais lus hauv ntiaj teb, yuav tsum ua raws li cov qauv coj ua.

Qhov thib ob, kev hais lus ntawm ib tug neeg muaj koob muaj npe yuav tsum tsim nyog, thiab yog tias nws pom nws tus kheej ntawm cov neeg ua liaj ua teb ntawm bazaar, ces nws yuav tsum yog "nws tus kheej". Txawm hais tias qhov no tsis tau txhais hais tias nws raug tso cai rau hauv kev hais lus tsis zoo thiab kev hais lus phem, kev tso dag yooj yim tau tso cai.

"COMME IL FAUT" OU "JE NE SAIS QUOI" ("raws li qhov tsim nyog lossis kuv tsis paub dab tsi" Fab Kis)

Sim txiav txim siab seb qhov kev yug me nyuam yog dab tsi tiag tiag, British Earl ntawm Chesterfield muab piv rau nws nrog qee qhov tsis pom kab, hla uas tus neeg dhau los ua kev zoo siab, thiab tsis ncav cuag nws - cheeky lossis txawv txawv. Lub subtlety yog nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb hais tias ib tug zoo coj tus yam ntxwv paub thaum twg yuav tsis quav ntsej cov cai ntawm ethiquette thiaj li tuav tau zoo.

Qhov tshwj xeeb elusive ntxim nyiam thiab ntxim nyiam ntawm cov nom tswv tau dhau los ntawm tes mus rau tes thiab hauv ntau qhov kev hwm muaj nyob rau hauv kev yooj yim thiab yooj yim ntawm tus cwj pwm.

Nws yog qhov ua tau tsis yooj yim sua kom qhia qhov tsis yooj yim comme il faut, tab sis nws tuaj yeem "sab" los ntawm kev nyeem ntawv. Piv txwv li, Olga Muravyova phau ntawv "Yuav ua li cas tsa ib tug Nobleman", uas tsim lub hauv paus ntawm tsab xov xwm no. Nyob rau hauv phau ntawv koj tuaj yeem pom ntau yam piv txwv ntawm tus cwj pwm aristocratic, tab sis kuj tsis txhob hnov qab txog qhov zoo nkauj Lavxias teb sab classics.