Yuav qhia tus menyuam li cas los tiv thaiv lawv txoj kev xav?

2024 Tus sau: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-16 16:06

Yuav kom tus me nyuam txaj muag kom muaj kev ywj pheej tiag tiag, qhia nws kom tiv thaiv nws tus kheej txoj kev xav. Thiab tsis yog qhov chaw nyob ntawd, nyob deb ntawm tsev, tab sis qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws ntawm no, hauv koj chav tsev, hauv kev sib tham thiab kev tsis sib haum xeeb nrog koj. Ntawm chav kawm, tsis muaj rudeness thiab rudeness, tab sis koj, ib yam nkaus thiab, tsis txhob boil tshaj thaum koj khiav mus rau hauv kev tsis pom zoo.

Cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog 2 txog 5 xyoos

Muaj ib qho kev ntsuam xyuas nthuav uas koj tuaj yeem paub Nws muajseb koj tus me me tus me nyuam txoj kev xav … Txawm hais tias nws muaj kev ywj pheej hauv nws tus cwj pwm los yog yooj yim pom zoo.

Ob peb tug menyuam zaum ntawm rooj. Ib phaj ntawm porridge muab tso rau hauv nruab nrab ntawm lub rooj. Tag nrho cov porridge yog sprinkled nrog qab zib, tsuas yog rau ib cheeb tsam, uas yog sprinkled nrog ntsev. Ib tug neeg laus muab txhua tus menyuam tig mus saj cov porridge (tsis txhob hnov qab tias txhua tus yuav tsum muaj lawv tus kheej diav), thiab nug cov lus nug: "Puas yog porridge qab? Qab zib?" Txhua leej txhua tus tau txais ib diav ntawm qab zib porridge, thiab qhov kawg (khoom) saj qab ntsev, tsis qab porridge. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam pom zoo, ces nws yuav teb zoo li txhua leej txhua tus hais tias porridge qab zib.

Tab sis tsis txhob maj mus liam thiab ntau ntxiv kom txaj muag rau koj tus menyuam yog tias nws tsis ua raws li koj qhov kev cia siab. "Ua zoo li lwm tus" yog qhov tseem ceeb heev rau tus menyuam. Tus me nyuam kawm nyob hauv ib lub zej zog uas muaj cov cai thiab cov qauv uas yuav tsum tau kawm.

Koj tus kheej puas muaj koj tus kheej xav lossis koj puas tau txais kev tshoov siab? Yog tias 50 tus neeg nyob ib puag ncig koj hais tias xiav yog ntsuab, koj yuav teb li cas?

Cov menyuam kawm ntawv theem pib

Thaum lub sij hawm no, cov me nyuam feem ntau yog collectivists. Lawv muab cov kev xav ntawm ib chav kawm lossis pab pawg phooj ywg saum lawv tus kheej. Thiab yog hais tias tus me nyuam nkag mus rau hauv "lub tuam txhab phem" … Koj yuav tsum tau tham thiab npaj tus me nyuam rau cov xwm txheej zoo li no. Kev sib tham yuav tsum tau ua los ntawm tus neeg uas muaj cai nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag ntawm tus me nyuam:

“Muaj pes tsawg zaus koj raug nug kom ua tej yam phem? Tej zaum koj txawm hais tias: "Los ntawm, tsis txhob ntshai!" Los yog lawv hais tias: "Tsis muaj dab tsi tsis ncaj ncees lawm, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, nws yuav lom zem!" Koj ua dab tsi? Muab tso tseg thiab ua dab tsi uas lawv tau thawb koj los yog ua rau lub siab ruaj khov thiab tsis ua rau kev yaum?

Xav txog tias ib tug neeg caw koj los noj tshuaj. Koj yuav tau hais tias nws yuav ua rau koj lom zem thiab koj yuav zoo siab. Tab sis nws yuav yog tshuaj. Los ntawm lawv koj tuaj yeem mob hnyav thiab tuag taus. Lossis tej zaum lawv yuav muab ib lub luam yeeb rau koj thiab hais tias: "Cia peb haus luam yeeb, tsis txhob ntshai!" Koj yuav ua li cas?

Puas tsim nyog ua kom koj lub neej nyob nyab xeeb? Tsis txhob mloog leej twg xav kom koj ua tej yam phem!

Nws yooj yim ua qhov yog thaum txhua tus ua nws. Tab sis thaum lwm tus thawb koj ua phem, nws tuaj yeem yog qhov kev sim tiag tiag.

Txawm lwm tus ntxias koj li cas los xij, tsis txhob ua txhaum koj cov ntsiab cai. Muaj koj lub tswv yim, sab laj nrog cov neeg hlub koj. " Qhia koj tus menyuam txog qhov kev sim thiab qhia cov yeeb yaj kiab uas tau piav qhia thiab qhia hauv qab no. Nws yuav tsum nkag siab tias "koj ua tsis tau raws li txhua tus neeg nyiam."

Cov neeg laus

Tib neeg nyiam tshawb xyuas lawv txoj kev xav thiab kev xav nrog kev xav thiab kev xav ntawm cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig lawv. Qhov no tshwm sim unconsciously. Peb nrhiav kev pom zoo los ntawm lwm tus vim ntshai tsam ua yuam kev.

Psychologists tau ua qhov kev sim. Ntau qhov kev kawm raug nug kom piav qhia txog "kev puas siab puas ntsws portrait" los ntawm kev saib ib daim duab ntawm tus neeg. Qee tus tau hais tias lawv tab tom ntsib kev ua txhaum cai txaus ntshai, lwm tus yog tus kws tshawb fawb zoo. Yog li ntawd, tag nrho cov kev kawm npe hu ua qhov zoo ntawm tus neeg ua txhaum cai lossis tus tsav, nyob ntawm tus cwj pwm muab rau lawv. Peb pom qhov peb xav pom. Nyob ntawm seb cov ntaub ntawv twg peb lub hlwb muaj txog cov khoom txheeb xyuas lossis cov xwm txheej. Thiab peb paub tseeb tias qhov no yog peb tus kheej txoj kev xav.

Puas muaj peev xwm qhia tus menyuam kom muaj kev xav?

Tau kawg koj ua tau thiab yuav tsum tau! Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog ua siab ntev thiab nrhiav sijhawm (uas feem ntau tsis muaj). Qhov zais cia yooj yim - cia koj tus menyuam xav txog nws tus kheej thiab txiav txim siab ywj pheej. Ua tib zoo coj nws, tsis txhob coj nws los ntawm tus kov. Yog tus menyuam nug ib lo lus nug uas nws tuaj yeem txiav txim siab rau nws tus kheej, ncua cov lus teb. Thiab tom qab ntawd muab cov lus qhia nrog cov lus nug tseem ceeb. "Niam, kuv lub kaus mom nyob qhov twg?" “Koj pom nws qhov twg? Thaum twg koj hnav nws? Koj tsis tuaj yeem muab nws pov rau hauv lub tawb nrog khaub ncaws qias neeg?” lwm. Koj yog ib tug piv txwv rau koj tus menyuam. Nco ntsoov khaws qhov no hauv siab thiab muaj koj lub tswv yim.

Txhawm rau qhia tus menyuam kom tiv thaiv nws tus kheej txoj kev xav, koj yuav tsum xub xav txog qhov kev xav no. Nws tshwm sim li cas? Lawv sib txuas lus nrog nws feem ntau nyob rau hauv daim ntawv ntawm kev txiav txim thiab cov lus qhia: "Ntxuav koj txhais tes, mus noj hmo, tshem cov khoom ua si, mus pw. Thaum koj saib tas luav, koj yuav tsum tua TV. Cov khaub ncaws tshem tawm tau dai rau ntawm lub rooj zaum, tsis tawg rau hauv pem teb. " Thiab immeasurably tsawg dua cov nqe lus xws li: "Koj yuav ua dab tsi rau noj hmo hnub no: qos yaj ywm nrog nceb los yog pilaf?" Thiab txawm tias qee zaum lawv suab, cov lus teb: "Scrambled qe", knocks tawm ntawm lub rut. Yuav ua li cas scrambled qe? Lawv noj tag sawv ntxov! Thiab nws pib …

Zoo, tsis muaj dab tsi hais txog cov lus nug xws li "Vim li cas koj xav?.. " Lo lus "vim li cas" feem ntau yog suab hauv cov ntsiab lus sib txawv kiag li. ("Vim li cas koj coj li no?"

Kuv muab ib qho kev sim me ntsis rau koj: rau 2-3 hnub, mus ncig hauv tsev nrog phau ntawv sau thiab muab lub cim rau ntawm ib daim ntawv thaum koj muab cov lus qhia rau koj tus menyuam, thiab lwm qhov thaum koj txaus siab rau nws txoj kev xav. Kuv xav tias qhov tshwm sim yuav impress koj.

1. "NICE DOUBLE" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 4-7 xyoos)

Tus neeg nthuav qhia pom zoo nrog cov menyuam yaus tias lawv rov ua txhua yam ntawm nws cov gestures, tshwj tsis yog rau ib qho, tsis yog lawv ua lawv tus kheej, kuj yog ib qho taw qhia ua ntej (piv txwv li, thaum nws dhia, lawv yuav tau zaum). Leej twg ua yuam kev yog tawm ntawm qhov kev ua si.

Nrog cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog 6-7 xyoo, koj tuaj yeem, ua ntej, nce tus naj npawb ntawm cov lus piav qhia uas tsis tuaj yeem rov ua dua, thiab thib ob, ua rau lawv tus kheej. Txhua tus menyuam yuav tau ua tej yam txawv. Ntawd yog, nws yuav muaj lub hom phiaj kom tsis txhob poob siab tsis yog rau tus neeg hais lus tawm tswv yim nkaus xwb, tab sis kuj rau kev cuam tshuam ntawm lwm tus players. Thiab qhov no tsis yooj yim li, vim tias cov menyuam txaj muag tiag tiag yog qhov pom zoo heev.

2. "REFLECTION IN THE MIRROR" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 7-10 xyoo)

Cov kev cai zoo li yuav yooj yim dua li hauv qhov kev ua si dhau los:

rov hais dua tus nthuav qhia gestures - thiab qhov ntawd yog nws. Tab sis tsuas yog piav qhia nws ob npaug hauv daim iav. Leej twg ua yuam kev yog tawm ntawm qhov kev ua si. Txawm li cas los xij, txawm tias zoo li qhov yooj yim ntawm qhov kev ua si, nws tsis yooj yim los yeej. Cov menyuam yaus yuav tsis meej pem thaum tsim nyog, hais, khoov rau sab laug thaum tus thawj coj khoov rau sab xis. Yog li ntawd, cov dej num yuav tsum tau maj mam maj mam. Thaum xub thawj, qhov piv ntawm gestures uas tau theej tag nrho rau kev txav mus los uas yuav tsum tau kho lub hlwb yuav tsum yog kwv yees li 7: 1. Piv txwv li: lawv zaum, ncaj nce, dhia, leaned rau pem hauv ntej, ncaj nraim, sawv ntawm tiptoes, nqis los, tsa lawv sab xis (qhov "xav txog" tsa sab laug). Ces nws yuav tsum tau txo. Tab sis nco ntsoov tias qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws tsis yog thaum qhov piv ntawm 1: 7, tab sis thaum "daim iav" thiab "tsis yog daim iav" txav tau hloov pauv. (1:1 lossis 2:1).

3. "LATE MIRROR" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 8-14 xyoos)

Cov players zaum hauv ib lub voj voog. Lawv yuav tsum xav txog tias lawv tab tom ua ntej ntawm daim iav. Peb ua ib qho txav, nres rau ib pliag, ntsia hauv daim iav. Lwm qhov kev txav yog ncua, qhov thib peb yog ncua. Tus neeg nyob ze ntawm sab laug yuav tsum rov ua tus thawj coj lub zog, tab sis tsuas yog thaum nws pib lub zog thib ob. Qhov thib peb ntawm sab laug tseem yuav rov ua qhov no, tab sis nrog kev ncua ob kauj ruam (piv txwv li thaum nws cov neeg nyob ze sab xis pib rov tsim dua tus thawj coj thib ob, thiab tus thawj coj nws tus kheej yuav ua rau peb lub zog). Yog li, tus neeg ua si kawg yuav tsum nco ntsoov ntau qhov kev txav dhau los, yog li ntawd, cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog 8-9 xyoos yuav tsum tsis txhob ua si hauv cov khoom loj, lawv tsis tuaj yeem ua li ntawd.

4."HOM HOM" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 6-14 xyoos)

Tus neeg laus nthuav qhia faib cov ntawv ntawm cov tsiaj ntawv ntawm cov menyuam yaus. Tom qab ntawd tus neeg nthuav qhia hais ib lo lus, thiab cov neeg ua si "luam" rau ntawm "tus neeg ntaus ntawv": thawj zaug "tso ntawv" npuaj tes, ces tus thib ob, thiab lwm yam. Yog tias cov me nyuam me thiab muaj tsawg, tsis txhob faib. tag nrho, tab sis ob peb tsab ntawv, thiab muab lawv ua ke hauv cov lus luv luv.

5. "STRONG DONKEY" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 4-5 xyoos)

Cov me nyuam txaj muag tiag tiag yog docile. Cov niam txiv yuav luag tsis yws txog lawv txoj kev tawv ncauj thiab kev tsis zoo. Ib tug me nyuam ntawm ib hom kev sib txawv pib ntxeev siab thaum raug nws. Thiab qhov "tsis pom" kev ua siab ntev, txawm hais tias lub zog ntawm lub siab ua rau lawv los ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv feem ntau ntau dua li lwm tsev neeg.

Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau tus me nyuam txaj muag tiag tiag kom tawv ncauj yam tsawg kawg hauv qhov kev ua si. Tsis txhob ntshai, nws yuav tsis coj tus cwj pwm phem, tab sis tsuas yog xoob me ntsis ntxiv. Ntxiv mus, raws li zaj dab neeg, tus nees luav yuav pom nws tus kheej hauv cov xwm txheej lom zem thiab tsis zoo. Qhov kev ua si yog ua si ntawm ib qho screen. Txhua yam yuav tsum tig mus ncig tus nees luav tsis kam mloog tus tswv. Ntawm no nws los loaded ntawm lub bazaar thiab ib nrab ntawm txoj kev nyob rau hauv txoj kev, tsis kam mus ntxiv. Ntawm no nws pom ib tug appetizing pos thiab khiav mus rau nws, tsis succumbing rau kev yaum ntawm tus tswv. Thiab ces nws yog ntsiag to thaum nws yuav tsum tau qw, thiab vice versa, nws qw thaum nws yog tsim nyog yuav tsum ntsiag to, thiab lwm yam. Nug tus menyuam lub tswv yim (tab sis tsis yog thaum pib ntawm qhov kev ua si, tab sis tom qab me ntsis), seb tus nees luav puas muaj tus tswv zoo, seb nws puas thauj tus nees luav ntau dhau nrog ntau yam haujlwm. Tej zaum tus nees luav tsuas nkees thiab yog li ntawd tawv? Hloov cov luag haujlwm thaum koj ua si.

6. "Cov ntxhais-niam" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 5-8 xyoos)

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau tus ntxhais txaj muag ua si nrog nws niam, uas yuav ua si lub luag haujlwm ntawm tus ntxhais. Thiab nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no, leej niam yuav tsum tsis txhob ua tus saib xyuas ntawm qhov kev ua si. Nws txoj hauj lwm yog qhov sib txawv: kom ua tiav rau qhov kev xav ntawm nws tus ntxhais, sim tsis qhia rau hauv qhov kev ua si li niaj zaus stereotypes ntawm tsev neeg kev sib raug zoo. Kuv ceeb toom koj ua ntej, qhov no tsis yog ib txoj haujlwm yooj yim. Yog li saib koj tus kheej ob leeg!

7. "Leej twg muaj kev txiav txim siab ntxiv?" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 7-14 xyoos)

Tus tswv tsev ua ib nqe lus, thiab cov players lees paub nws. Koj tuaj yeem muab cov lus sib cav thiab qee qhov piv txwv ntawm lub neej. (Qee zaum nws yooj yim dua rau cov menyuam yaus.) Yog tias muaj ntau tus menyuam koom nrog hauv kev ua si, tus menyuam txaj muag khiav txoj kev pheej hmoo ntawm kev raug tso rau hauv qhov ntxoov ntxoo, yog li peb ntawm lawv yuav tsum ua si, lossis zoo dua, ua ke. Yog tias koj pom tias tus menyuam tawm tsam, ua tib zoo pab nws nrog cov lus nug.

Piv txwv ntawm cov lus:

- Nws muaj txiaj ntsig los nyeem (vim …).

- Sib ntaus tsis zoo (vim…).

- Nws yog qhov zoo dua los ua cov lus qhia sai.

- Nws yog qhov zoo dua kom muaj phooj ywg ntau dua li ob peb.

- Muaj ib tug dev yog qhov zoo!

- Tsib yog zoo dua plaub.

8. "YUAV QHOV TSEEB …" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 10-14 xyoos)

Lub sij hawm no, tsis yog li ntawd indisputable nqe lus raug xaiv, thiab cov players yuav tsum tsis tau tsuas yog paub meej lawv, tab sis kuj refute lawv. Piv txwv li:

- Nws yog qhov zoo kom muaj nyiaj ntau (qee tus yuav hais txog tub sab thiab mafia, thiab cov menyuam yaus, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov uas nyiam nyeem ntawv, tej zaum yuav nco ntsoov lub laj thawj ntawm cov kev paub ntawm cov neeg nplua nuj, uas muaj ntau hauv cov ntaub ntawv, xav tias. lwm tus uas lawv tsis hlub nws, tsuas yog nws lub peev xwb).

- Nws yeej ib txwm zoo los yeej.

- Thaum lawv hais lus rau koj, nws tsis txaus siab.

- Zaum hauv tsev ib leeg yog dhuav.

- Cov neeg laus yeej ib txwm yog.

- Saib TV yog teeb meem.

9. "SLEEPING SPORTER" (rau cov menyuam hnub nyoog 10-14 xyoos)

Nrog cov menyuam loj, koj tuaj yeem sim ua kom nyuaj rau qhov kev ua si "Leej twg muaj laj thawj ntxiv?" thiab sim los tawm tsam nrog cov lus hais saum toj no (thiab zoo sib xws).

Piv txwv li, nqe lus "Kev nyeem ntawv yog qhov muaj txiaj ntsig" yuav tsis raug lees paub tias yog ib qho axiom rau cov neeg uas muaj myopia hnyav (thiab txawm nyob ntawm cov phau ntawv twg los nyeem, thiab txawm nyob ntawm seb lub sijhawm twg - nyeem ntawm ib qho thaum sawv ntxov yuav coj cov ntawv nyeem. menyuam raug mob ntau dua qhov zoo!).

Kev sib ntaus, tau kawg, yog qhov phem, tab sis muaj kev poob tawm nrog tus neeg ua phem rau koj lossis koj tus phooj ywg, koj yuav xav tias yog. Thiab feem ntau, nws yog qhov zoo dua los xaus cov lus qhia sai sai, tab sis yog tias lawv ua tiav playfully, mus tom ntej, nws tsis zoo li qhov no yuav zoo siab rau tus kws qhia ntawv. Ib plaub hauv Lavxias yog qhov zoo dua li tsib hauv kev kawm lub cev. Yam tsawg kawg yog qhov kev xav ntawm cov niam txiv feem coob. Thiab nrog tus dev txhua yam tsis yooj yim li …