Cov neeg laus txog menyuam yaus. Ntu 4

2024 Tus sau: Seth Attwood | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-16 16:06

Los ntawm tsab xov xwm ntawm peb cov neeg nyeem txhawj txog lub ntsiab lus ntawm kev yug me nyuam, uas yog qhov tseem ceeb rau feem ntau. Lub sijhawm no, cov txheej txheem tau txiav txim siab, uas tuaj yeem raug hu ua "Kuv hlub koj", nrog rau cov tswv yim rau kev txhim kho kev xav "Zaj dab neeg pw" "Peb ua si ua ke."

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Peb txuas ntxiv peb cov kev sib tham txog menyuam yaus thiab ua haujlwm nrog menyuam yaus.

Reception "Kuv hlub koj". Qee lub sij hawm, hauv qee qhov xwm txheej, tsis muaj "kev txawj ntse" ua haujlwm.

Piv txwv li, ib tug me nyuam tsis mloog lus, quaj, npau taws, chim siab rau ib yam dab tsi. Wb hais tias lawv tsis yuav nws ib qho khoom ua si, los yog lawv tsis cia nws ua ib yam dab tsi, los yog koj cem nws ua ib yam dab tsi ua ntej …

Peb sim piav qhia rau nws peb lossis nws qhov kev ua, tab sis qhov laj thawj tsis ua haujlwm. Ntxiv mus, tus me nyuam nthwv dej ib tug cwj mem los yog lo tawm nws tus nplaig, thiab lwm yam.

Peb tsis npau taws, peb tsis hem, tab sis peb hais ua siab dawb siab zoo, los ntawm lub siab (tsis nyob rau hauv ib tug patter): "Kuv hlub koj, kuv tus hlub (nyob zoo). Lub whim tsis ploj mus tam sim ntawd, nws yuav tsis ploj mus sai sai. Tom qab tos me ntsis, peb hais dua: "Kuv hlub koj … / Kuv hlub koj txawm tias … / koj paub tias kuv hlub koj, txawm tias koj quaj los yog cog lus …". Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nres. Nws yuav siv sij hawm rau tus me ego tso tseg. Thiab tsis tas yuav tham ntau dhau, tham txog qhov xwm txheej. Tab sis koj tuaj yeem ntxiv: "Los ntawm kuv, Kuv yuav puag koj, hnia koj, kuv zoo (zoo) …".

Kuv tus tub xeeb ntxwv tsis tuaj tam sim ntawd, nws tuaj yeem zaum me ntsis ntawm lub ces kaum, puff. Tej zaum 5 feeb dhau mus. Qee zaum kuv nco tias: "Kuv lub hnub, tuaj rau kuv." Thiab thaum kawg nws taug kev. Tom qab ntawd koj yuav tsum ua "hugs". Raws li txoj cai, qhov xwm txheej dhau lawm. Tab sis lwm cov tswv yim kuj yuav xav tau (nyob ntawm seb tus me nyuam qhov xwm txheej, nws tus cwj pwm), piv txwv li, "Bargaining" lossis "Rationalization".

Cov txheej txheem "Kuv hlub koj" yog universal. Nws tau pab kuv ntau yam hauv ntau yam xwm txheej. Nws ua haujlwm zoo rau cov menyuam yaus, thaum ua ke nrog Rationalize. Kuv siv nws nrog kuv tus tub 25 xyoo thiab. Tab sis, tau kawg, koj yuav tsum tau npaj rau kev sib tham ua ntej, xaiv cov lus sib cav, txoj cai mus sau lawv. Yog lawm! Yog lawm! 100 lub sij hawm yog. Peb yuav tsum npaj. Txog rau kev npaj cov phiaj xwm sib tham luv luv hauv kev sau ntawv, tshwj tsis yog, ntawm chav kawm, koj xav ua txhaum rau hauv kev xav dua, thaum koj cov lus teb rau nws (nws) cov lus sib cav (thiab ntau zaus, kev zam txim thiab kev zam txim) "dab tsi" khiav tawm..

Cov neeg feem coob, thaum lawv khiav tawm ntawm cov lus, hloov mus rau kev xav, thiab nws hloov tawm "lawv xav tau qhov zoo tshaj plaws, tab sis nws tig tawm, raws li ib txwm muaj." Ntau precisely, kev sib tham tsis ua hauj lwm, tab sis ib tug tshiab puag ncig ntawm kev chim siab thiab tsis to taub hloov tawm. Vim cov lus tsis txaus.

Qhov pib ntawm kev sib tham nrog ib tug hluas lossis cov menyuam yaus yog qhov tseem ceeb heev - yuav tsum muaj qee yam zoo li cov lus: "Koj paub, Kuv xav nrog koj tham, tsis muaj kev xav, ua siab ntev … / Tanya, Kuv yuav tsum tham txog ib qho. lo lus nug nrog koj, mloog, thov … / Dima, peb yuav tsum tham ob peb feeb … / Lub sijhawm kawg koj xav tau … (ua li cas, piv txwv li, lossis mus rau qhov twg) Kuv mus ntsib koj, yog li mloog, thov … ") thiab hais txog. Muaj ib qho zoo heev nyob rau hauv zaj yeeb yaj kiab "The Rescuer", qhov twg kev sib tham nyuaj ntawm tus thawj coj-phooj ywg thiab ib tug phooj ywg-sib koom pib nrog cov lus: "Kuv tsis tua koj thaum so haujlwm thaum koj muaj plaub caug, yog li thov koj mloog kuv. …” Ntxiv mus - "Kuv hlub koj" (Kuv hlub koj li ib tug ntxhais / raws li ib tug tub / raws li ib tug neeg nyob ze rau kuv, thiab lwm yam) thiab, tej zaum, ib co justifications ntawm yog vim li cas, rau dab tsi, vim li cas … (piv txwv li, yog li ntawd Kuv thov kom koj tsuas zoo / tsuas zoo xwb…). Cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem tsis ntseeg, lawv tuaj yeem hnov cov suab nrov zoo kawg nkaus, paub qhov txawv, thiab tej zaum yuav xav xav. Yog li ntawd, koj lub siab dawb paug yuav tsum yog lub siab dawb paug, thiab qee yam ntawm koj cov lus yuav tsum tau sib cav ntxiv. Qhov no yuav tsum tau ua yam tsis muaj kev liam. Nws muaj peev xwm hais tias cov lus foob yuav tsum tau hnov. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas thaum kawg ntawm kev sib tham koj tuaj rau qee yam kev pom zoo ua ke kom qhov kev sib tham xaus nrog qee qhov txiaj ntsig.

Koj xav tau dab tsi tshwm sim thaum koj xav muaj kev sib tham no? Lub hom phiaj ntawm kev sib tham yog dab tsi?

Cov txheej txheem rau kev txhim kho kev xav "Zaj dab neeg pw" "Peb ua si ua ke."

“Kev npau suav yuav tsum tau hloov mus rau kev qhuab qhia kev xav. Twb tau cov sages thaum ub tau qhia cov niam kom dhau cov lus dab neeg txog tus phab ej rau lawv cov menyuam thiab paub lawv nrog cov nkauj zoo tshaj plaws txog kev siv dag zog. Tib neeg puas yuav tsis lees txais cov lus cog tseg no? Lub Ntiaj Teb Fiery yog thawj zaug ntawm txhua qhov qhib rau cov phab ej thiab cov neeg ua yeeb yam. (Lub Ntiaj Teb Fiery, Ntu 2, 428).

Cov me nyuam yuav tsum tau qhia dab neeg. Mus kawm ntawv. Thiab txawm nyob rau qib 1. Tab sis tsis yog tag nrho cov fairy tales haum. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau coj mus rau hauv tus account lub hnub nyoog ntawm tus me nyuam, style ntawm kev nthuav qhia ntawm cov khoom ntawm fairy tales thiab nws kev coj ncaj ncees (dab tsi coj ncaj ncees qhov tseem ceeb nyob rau hauv lub fairy taleas).

Ib txoj hauv kev los txhim kho kev xav yog los ntawm kev hais rau kuv tus tub xeeb ntxwv tom qab zaj dab neeg, piv txwv li, “Zoo dab neeg? Koj puas nyiam nws? Vim li cas nws thiaj zoo? Koj nyiam li cas? Thiab yog vim li cas / vim li cas nws (tus hero) ua li no? Ua cas nws ho tsis mloog? Tus tub no puas zoo los tsis zoo? Yuav ua li cas lwm tus heroes? Thiab yog vim li cas nws yog (lawv) zoo / phem? Lwm yam lwm. qhov tseem ceeb yog ib zaj dab neeg.

Yog hais tias tus me nyuam poob nrog cov lus teb, koj yuav tsum tau hais kom nws los yog me ntsis ntxiv cov duab ntawm nws cov lus teb = xav, qhia ncaj qha los yog tsis ncaj rau qee qhov laj thawj thiab cov txiaj ntsig, muab qee qhov piv txwv lossis cov lus teb uas txawv ntawm qhov nws hais. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, nws tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum tsom mus rau RIGHT kev ncaj ncees qhov tseem ceeb (los ntawm lo lus sab xis, sab laug hauv peb lub teb chaws yog txaus, hmoov tsis - thaum peb tham txog sab laug thiab sab xis, peb yuav tsum tsis txhob cuam tshuam cov ntsiab lus no nrog kev nom kev tswv, peb tab tom tham txog ob txoj hauv kev txhim kho noob neej, hais txog Sab Hnub Tuaj thiab Sab Hnub Poob, txog Qhov Zoo thiab Kev Phem).

Tej zaum ib tug yuav hais tias: "Qhov no yog formatting … Thaum nws loj hlob tuaj, nws yuav xam nws tus kheej …". Uh-huh … Peb yuav teb qhov no: “Tsis formatting, tab sis tsim tus me nyuam tus nqi system. Txoj cai = txoj cai (los ntawm qhov zoo!) Cov nqi. Thiab txoj kev loj hlob ntawm nws txoj kev xav nyob rau hauv txoj kev yog." Rau yog tias koj tsis tsim cov txiaj ntsig, ces lawv yuav raug tsim los ntawm txoj kev, kindergarten, tsev kawm ntawv, thiab lwm yam - txoj kev uas lawv tuaj yeem ua tau (txog tam sim no, hmoov tsis, tsis yog nyob rau hauv txoj kev zoo tshaj plaws), lossis txawm tias qee tus neeg phem los ntawm lub yeej rog. ntawm destructives tsis kam …

Tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau ua kom tiav kev tsim TSIS obtrusively, tsis yog ib sab, tsis dhau, tsis insisting, thiab lwm yam., tab sis nug (ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov!), Directing nrog cov lus nug, qhia, piav qhia … Lub luag hauj lwm yog tsis mus. tsim stereotypes, tab sis los qhia tias yuav ua li cas tshwm sim thiab yuav ua li cas, thaum tsis txhob hnov qab qhia yuav ua li cas Vladimir Mayakovsky ("Dab tsi yog qhov zoo thiab dab tsi yog phem?"), kom raug coj ncaj ncees thiab kev coj noj coj ua qhov tseem ceeb.

Txoj kev thib ob. Nws yuav siv sij hawm me ntsis kev xav. Piv txwv li, kuv sau ib zaj dab neeg, intertwining nyob rau hauv nws raws li zaj dab neeg zuj zus, cov zajlus thiab heroes ntawm sib txawv fairy tales (nws yog heev nthuav rau weave zaj dab neeg no, tsim lub feem ntau npaj txhij txog ua ke). Thiab / los yog, kuv feem ntau qhia tus tub xeeb ntxwv nws tus kheej rau hauv zaj dab neeg ntawm zaj dab neeg, ua tus ua cim. Qee lub sij hawm, tau hais ib zaj dab neeg txog ib qho taw qhia, kuv hais tias: "Thiab tom qab ntawd dab tsi tshwm sim - tuaj nrog … / qhia koj tus kheej. Nov yog koj zaj dab neeg …". Qee lub sij hawm tib lub sij hawm kuv teeb tsa kev taw qhia, pab ua ntej nrog kev txhim kho ntawm qhov xwm txheej, vim hais tias tus me nyuam txoj kev npau suav yuav tsis ua haujlwm tam sim ntawd - nws yuav tsum tau tsim maj mam: "Koj mus qhov twg?.. Koj ua dab tsi?.. Thiab ces ua li cas?..”.

Piv txwv li, koj tuaj yeem coj cov dab neeg hais txog "Little Red Riding Hood", qhia txhua yam thaum pib raws li niaj zaus, thiab tom qab ntawd sau koj tus menyuam lub npe rau hauv lub cam khwb cia, thiab cia nws pab Little Red Riding Hood dim ntawm lub hma hauv koj zaj dab neeg.

"Yog hais tias cov lus qhia ntawm kev coj ncaj ncees yuav tsum raug qhia rau cov menyuam yaus hauv lub neej ntawm tus phab ej ntawm txhua lub hnub nyoog thiab txhua haiv neeg, ces cov kev cai sab hauv tshaj plaws ntawm kev ua neej tuaj yeem nthuav tawm ua cov dab neeg ntxim nyiam thiab cov piv txwv los ntawm lub neej ntawm txhua lub nceeg vaj ntawm xwm. Cov kev txawj ntse ntawm cov hnub nyoog tuaj yeem nthuav tawm hauv cov ntaub ntawv yooj yim tshaj plaws thiab, yog li, ntau qhov kev ncua deb yuav tshwm sim. Yog lawm, cov lus qhia zoo li no tau nco qab zoo dua thaum lawv nthuav tawm rau cov menyuam yaus hauv daim ntawv ntawm kev ua yeeb yam me me, qhov twg cov menyuam yaus lawv tus kheej ua lub luag haujlwm ntawm tus phab ej. Cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem ris lub npe ntawm lawv tus phab ej uas lawv xaiv hauv lawv cov rooj sib tham. " (Helena I. Roerich, 19.04.38.).

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev rau kev ua si ua ke. Xws li kev ua si hauv lub luag haujlwm (tus kws kho mob thiab tus neeg mob, leej txiv / leej niam thiab tus ntxhais / tus tub, tus kws qhia ntawv thiab tub ntxhais kawm, thiab lwm yam., tus tsim thiab tus neeg xauj tsev). Cov phiaj xwm tuaj yeem raug coj los ntawm cov xwm txheej niaj hnub hauv lub neej, incl. thiab cov uas tseem ceeb los qhia lossis sib tham nrog tus menyuam. Muaj ntau ntawm lawv - cov phiaj xwm, suav nrog cov uas los ntawm lub neej koj thiab nws tau ua neej nyob. Kuv rov hais dua - coj mus rau hauv tus account lub hnub nyoog ntawm tus menyuam (vim txhua yam muaj nws lub sijhawm) thiab tsis txhob yuam koj lub tswv yim, tsis txhob tsim ib qho kev xav.

Nco ntsoov tias kev ua si nrog tus menyuam tsis yog tsuas yog ua si lub cev muaj zog - txhim kho kev sib koom tes ntawm kev txav, qhov tseeb, dexterity, thiab lwm yam, tab sis kuj muaj txiaj ntsig - rau kev loj hlob ntawm kev xav, thiab kev txawj ntse ntawm ib yam dab tsi - rau kev txhim kho ntau yam txuj ci, thiab muaj tswv yim - ntawm kev txhim kho pob ntseg rau suab paj nruag, suab paj nruag, kev txawj kos duab, kos duab, hu nkauj, seev cev, thiab lwm yam. Piv txwv li, peb nyiam kos duab ua ke nrog peb tus tub xeeb ntxwv - piv txwv li, lub roob Altai thiab peb cov dev, thiab ntawm chav kawm, cov me nyuam lawv tus kheej. Los yog kuv yuav kos ib yam dab tsi nyuaj (ib tug sawv, carnation) thiab qhia nws - kos, thiab qee zaum kuv yuav kos nws nrog tus cwj mem qhov twg nyuaj. Qee zaum nws tsis ua haujlwm thawj zaug, thiab kuv yaum kom nws rov ua nws zoo dua, vim peb yuav qhia Dad. Yog li ntawd, nws kawm tau zoo heev.

Los yog peb nrog cov menyuam yaus hnav cov nkauj sib txawv thiab seev cev sib txawv - Slavic, Eastern, Caucasian … Los yog seev cev zoo li hluav taws, zoo li dej, zoo li huab cua …

Peb muaj ob peb lub suab paj nruag sib txawv hauv tsev, thiab cov menyuam yaus ib txwm muaj kev txaus siab rau lawv. Koj tsis tuaj yeem txwv tsis pub kov lawv, noj lawv (dav, nyiam, lawv tawg), koj xav tau, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, npaj cov chav kawm nrog cov menyuam kom lawv hum, khob, rattle …

Zoo, uas yog, ntawm no, nyob rau hauv txoj kev loj hlob ntawm creativity, tsis muaj kev txwv rau creativity, koj tsuas yog yuav tsum tau qhia me ntsis kev xav ntawm peb tus kheej.

"Txij thaum muaj hnub nyoog ib tug yuav tsum tau qhia kom assimilate qhov zoo nkauj ntawm lub suab. Musicality xav tau kev kawm. Nws yog qhov tseeb hais tias nyob rau hauv txhua tus neeg lub propensity rau lub suab yog inherent, tab sis tsis muaj kev kawm nws tsaug zog. Ib tug yuav tsum mloog zoo nkauj thiab hu nkauj. Qee zaum kev sib haum xeeb ib leeg yuav ua rau muaj kev zoo nkauj nyob mus ib txhis. Tab sis kev tsis paub yog qhov zoo thaum qhov zoo tshaj plaws panaceas tsis nco qab hauv tsev neeg. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum lub ntiaj teb no shuddering nrog kev ntxub ntxaug, yuav tsum ceev nrooj qhib pob ntseg ntawm cov tub ntxhais hluas tiam. Yog tsis paub lub ntsiab lus ntawm lub suab paj nruag, nws yog tsis yooj yim sua kom to taub lub suab ntawm xwm. Thiab, ntawm chav kawm, ib tug tsis tuaj yeem xav txog lub suab paj nruag ntawm lub spheres - tsuas yog lub suab nrov yuav muaj rau tus ntsuj plig ntawm tus tsis paub. Thiab cov nkauj ntawm ib tug dej tsaws tsag los yog ib tug dej los yog dej hiav txwv yuav tsuas yog ib tug nrov. Cua yuav tsis coj suab paj nruag thiab yuav tsis rings nyob rau hauv hav zoov nrog ib tug solemn zaj nkauj. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws kev sib haum xeeb ploj mus rau lub pob ntseg tsis qhib. Cov neeg puas tuaj yeem ua rau lawv nce siab yam tsis muaj nkauj? " Kwv tij, 292.

Thiab qhov kawg - nws yooj yim heev rau kev kawm (nrog ob tus tub xeeb ntxwv thiab tub xeeb ntxwv) hais tsab ntawv "rr" hauv ob peb qhov kev cob qhia xwb. Kuv paub tias lwm tus kws kho mob hais lus tuaj yeem cuam tshuam li cas ntawm no rau ib hlis. Peb ua nws yooj yim los ntawm kev tawm tswv yim: "Cia peb kawm." Cov me nyuam pom zoo. Nws qhia qhov twg tus nplaig haum rau hauv lub qhov ncauj siv qhov piv txwv ntawm nws tus nplaig (lawv ntsia rau hauv kuv lub qhov ncauj). Kuv pom li cas tus nplaig tshee tshee, tshee hnyo, finely. Lawv pib tshwj xeeb nrog cov lus luv luv nrog cov cim thaum pib mus rau rattle: "Tr-r-rava, dr-r-ditch, tr-r-ramvay, cr-r-rat, st-r-rooj, thiab lwm yam." Lawv cov menyuam yaus yooj yim tshaj tawm, tshaj tawm, tawg nws tus nplaig.

Nws tsis ua haujlwm tam sim ntawd. Tam sim no kuv ntsia mus rau hauv lawv lub qhov ncauj kom pom tus nplaig nyob qhov twg. Qhia kuv dua. Dua tr-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-ling Thaum kawg, tus yau "tua" kom meej meej "tr-r-rava". Peb hu ua niam thiab txiv. Niam tsiv los kua muag. Zaj lus qhia tau siv sijhawm 20 feeb. Tom qab ntawd peb rov hais dua ob peb zaug, ua rau cov lus nyuaj dua.

Tsis tas li ntawd, thaum tus me nyuam kawm hais lus "r", koj yuav tsum kom nws hais qhov no "rr" hauv cov lus uas nws hais txhua hnub, i.e. xyuam xim rau qhov no tsis tu ncua, tab sis tsis ua kom cov txheej txheem nrawm. Hauv ntej, thaum kuv tuaj xyuas ib hlis tom qab, tsis muaj teeb meem nrog tsab ntawv "r". Cov niam txiv conscientiously ua tiav qhov lawv tau pib. Hauv qhov no, peb tau ua yam tsis muaj tus kws kho mob hais lus. Txawm hais tias kev qhia tus menyuam mus rau ib tus kws tshaj lij yog, ntawm chav kawm, tsis muaj mob, thiab txawm tias tsim nyog.

Hais NO RAU LWM TUS - tsis tas yuav tsum khiav tawm ntawm kev ua haujlwm nrog koj tus menyuam, ua pov thawj nws nrog koj tsis khoom lossis xa mus rau lwm tus. Cov niam txiv thiab cov niam tais yawm txiv yuav tsum ua hauj lwm ua ke thiab hauv kev hais kwv txhiaj los qhia tus me nyuam, faib qee yam haujlwm ntawm no thiab muab kev sib koom tes thiab kev txhawb nqa. Tab sis tsawg npaum li cas, qhov tseeb, xws li tsev neeg. Thiab peb, ntawm chav kawm, kuj tsis tam sim ntawd nrhiav tau ib hom lus nrog cov laus tsev neeg cov me nyuam, tab sis ib tug neeg yuav tsum txawj ntse … Kuv xav tias tag nrho cov tib - cov laus tiam. Thiab feem ntau nws yuav tsum tau ua ib kauj ruam tom ntej, ua ntej ntawm txhua yam hloov nws tus cwj pwm.

"Cia li tsis txhob xav tias haiv neeg tom ntej yuav poob saum ntuj los ntawm cov tis liab!" Hierarchy, 207. Tib neeg yuav tsum tau tsa thiab kawm rau nws!

Pom koj. Yuav tsum tau txuas ntxiv…

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